CLARENCE PAGE: Don’t let politics come between friends

As an old feminist movement slogan goes, “the personal is political.” Unfortunately, in today’s polarized atmosphere you may not know politics are getting too personal until it’s too late.

A couple of years ago, we saw the Thanksgiving effect. After the 2016 presidential election, according to a study published in Science magazine, the length of the average Thanksgiving dinner was 30 to 50 minutes shorter for Americans who crossed partisan lines to get to their family celebration compared with those who traveled to areas that voted like their own.

I call it the Grumpy Uncle effect, although I have found more than a few Grumpy Aunts as well. Just about every family seems to have at least one grump whose politics differ from everybody else’s around the table, and the rancor seems to have become more heated in the Trump era.

A 2016 Pew Research Center poll found most Americans choose to spend their time with people who vote the same way as they do — and increasingly see people who disagree with them as downright evil.

Against the backdrop of those well-known partisan differences, I was still dismayed to find that 47 percent of Republicans judged Democrats to be more immoral than other Americans and 35 percent of Democrats said the same about Republicans.

As Rodney King famously said, can we all get along?

That question forms the subtext of “Swing State,” a documentary project by Wisconsin filmmaker Bryan Oldenburg who interviewed voters from red and blue counties across the Badger State to get a ground-level view of how their status as a key battleground state in the race to win the Electoral College had affected their lives. For too many, he told me, the effects on personal lives have not been good.

“Some of these people no longer speak with each other,” he said in a telephone interview.

Fortunately, part one of what Oldenburg hopes will be a two- or three-part “Swing State” series, was filmed before the rancor of the bad news out of Kenosha this summer. Violence exploded there in August after the police shooting of a Black man, Jacob Blake. That was followed by protests that led to the fatal shooting of two protesters for which Kyle Rittenhouse, a 17-year-old self-styled militiaman from Illinois, has been charged.

Instead, “Swing State” offers a view quiet enough to hear people talk about how they voted four years ago, how they plan to vote this time and how these important decisions have affected their community lives.

Watching the documentary, I was struck by a palpable sadness in some of the interviewees, especially when they talked about the discomfort that has entered political discussions. On occasion, I have received an angry invective-filled email that suddenly takes a quieter, revealing turn in its closing line: “Thanks for letting me vent.” You’re welcome. Who says we media workers don’t offer a public service?

For now, as one thoughtful young Wisconsin man says near the end of the film, “We need to listen to each other. It doesn’t matter who’s right or wrong as long as we listen to each other and hear each other out. … I hope to do more of that myself.”

So do I. So should we all, as long as it doesn’t spoil the family dinner.

Contact Clarence Page, a columnist for the Chicago Tribune, at cpage@chicagotribune.com.