Phyllis Marder participates in a virtual Tohar study of the Torah at her home in Evanston, Ill., on Wednesday, Nov. 11, 2020. At first, Marder, 66, didn’t tell anyone about going to food pantries. Then she had a change of heart. “Keeping a secret makes things get worse,” she says ’”… and makes me feel worse about myself, and so I decided that it was more important to talk about it." (AP Photo/Charles Rex Arbogast)